Don't make assumptions

In agreement three, Don Miguel Ruiz states that we need to communicate with others clearly to avoid misunderstandings and drama. He tells us to find the courage to ask questions and express what we really want.

Not too long ago I had a conversation with a friend and thought I understood what she was saying. However when I responded to her, she was completely taken off guard and offended by what I said. Rather than jump to conclusions, my first step should have been to clarify what she was saying and I did not. Not only did this cause her to be uncomfortable, but with her own misinterpretations of my response she ended all communication with me. We should have taken the time to understand where each was coming from rather than assume we thought we knew. This would have prevented us both from feeling awkward.

Active listening helps us become fully involved in the conversation with the other person. When we ask for clarification, this conveys that we are truly interested in what the other is saying and we are staying present, and in the moment with them.

May you find ways to communicate, effectively and with love.

Namaste,
WS